Murrmurr: Could you ever go out in a committed, long-term relationship with a religous person? I.E., does not want sex before marriage, believes in the creationist theory, goes to church every sunday…
I don’t think so. Generally I can have respect for people who are super-religious until it starts touching my life on a regular basis - and even when I’m displaying that respect, there’s a part of me thinking they’re a blind idiot. I went out with a girl for two years who didn’t want sex before marriage and “I strongly believe that it was eventually this lack of intimacy that tore us apart.”
Finally, somebody who was that strong a Christian would believe that I, as an atheist, would be damned to an eternity in Hell, or at the very least, purgatory. I don’t believe in Hell, but it’s not so much what I think, it’s what they think - whilst they might think I’m a great person, if they still believed I’m damned, then I don’t think I could be with them.
So, no.
I think thats harsh. I’m not religious, I never practised abstaining from sex before marriage for any reason - reilgious, personal or cultural.
However I think that if you believe that intimacy or the majority of intimacy will come from sex - your relationships will ultimately and more than likely fail.
Sex can be intimate, but based on the existance of one night stands, casual flings etc it’s definatly something that can not.
Intimacy is someone remembering how you take your tea, pulling the blankets over you when your sick because you’ve kicked them off, hugs, personal jokes, holding hands, dancing in the kitchen, being carried to bed when you pass out on the couch, the person who brings you a bucket and some aspro clear and sits there while you chuck and laughs at you when you say “I’ll never drink again” and laughs even harder when you crack open a beer two days later.
And as much as I can’t beleive I’m going to say this.
Intimacy is the shit that makes sex that much better. Not the other way around.
